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Friday, April 17, 2009

Friday's Grill

GoldenGoodness

Hello Everyone. Today is Friday! YAY! and thanks to Tina over at Grilling Goodness I've got a few fun questions for you. If you want to get in on the fun head on over to her blog and check it out.

1. Do you prefer reality tv or dramas or comedies? I usually end up watching dramas, but I watch a few of the others too. :) I watch Numb3rs, SVU, Ghost Whisperer. Things like that but I also like to watch American Idol, Biggest Loser, and Nick at Nite. :) That is when I have the time.

2. If you could have free cosmetic surgery, what would you have done? Oh wow. There are a couple things I would have done but I guess first I would have a Tummy Tuck. Mommy Belly just doesn't go away and I would love for my pants to fit me better. lol.

3. What are you itching to get but you have 'bitten the bullet'? A Camera. I really want a Digital SLR but it just isn't in the budget at the moment.

4. Do you have a bad habit that you hope your children don't pick up? I bite my fingernails when I am stressed. I really hope they don't pick it up. So far so good.

5. What was your favorite meal growing up? Any of my moms "Throw Together Dinners" they were the best well except for the spinach pitas, eww! I still make the others though for my kids. :)

6. What meal did you have as a youngster that you don't have as an adult? Hmm...I guess it would have to be the above referenced Spinach Pitas. I had to eat them then. Now I get to choose. :) BTW they are Pitas stuffed with mushrooms, groundbeef and cooked spinach. YUCK! lol

7. What is your earliest memory of a "vacation"? Where'd you go? My Great Grandma Schutte's farm. That is where we always went on "vacation" I loved it there. I have some of my favorite memories from there.

8. What was the "Best Thing" you ever got for Christmas, before age 12? I guess it would be either my Cabbage Patch Doll or my Little Tikes Kitchen. I still have my CPK though so I guess that would be it.


I hope you want to play along. Make sure you sign Mr. Linky over at Grilling Goodness if you do.


A.Berry

Monday, April 13, 2009

"What I ended up finding was myself
and that high school hasn´t changed
Those girls are still there
the ones that,
even as you grow up,.
will remain
the most beautiful girls...
you have ever seen close up."

Have you ever felt that way? You see someone so dropdead gorgeous you know that there is no way that you will ever compare to their beauty. I used to feel so ugly in school. For alot of different reasons really. I always felt second best to others. I think alot of this had to do with certain people who raised me. Noone in my actual family so don't worry there. I always felt, belittled and ashamed of who I was and who I wanted to be. It took me along time to get past those walls I built around myself so that I wouldn't be hurt anymore. It took me a real long time to realize that I was pretty, and good enough and I could do whatever I wanted.
But sometimes those same scared little girl feelings come back. Certain things in life come up and once again I am that insecure little girl who feels ugly and not good enough. I think it is happening a little too often lately. But I charge through it and hope that one day soon the feelings will go away. Even if I sit and cry a few nights.
Having a 2 little girls of my own I promised she would never feel that way. Not by me or by anyone who cares for her. So I do my best to reassure her that she is gorgeous inside and out. And that she is smart. I hope they never gets bullied in school. I wasn't bullied, they didn't get the chance. I did it enough to myself. Self Esteem I have learned is such an important thing. It makes you evaluate your self worth and these early years are what are going to give her what she needs as an adult. I never want my girls to feel the way I do. I still don't think I could be a model or anything, but you know.. I am getting better. And don't get me wrong. I know that true beauty is on the inside. I just sometimes feel not so pretty there either.
Watching my friends lives go on, watching them be happy in their lives with their husbands, or boyfriends, or whatever, leaves me jealous and yes sometimes angry. And then I feel like a bad friend. I want what they have. I HAD what they have. I want it back. It's been 2 years!! When I sit back and think about it it just makes me feel that much worse. But I suppose whatever is supposed to happen will and that is all I have to wait for. In the mean time I will continue to reassure my daughters that they are beautiful all around and smart and that they can do whatever they set their minds to do!